Monday, May 23, 2011

Expectations...Are mine set to high?

There are days when I have expectations of people doing or completing what they told me they would do. Then those expectations are not met when they don't follow through with what was said. That leaves me feeling a bit depressed, angry and sad. I try to shake off all the feelings of lost expectations, but sometimes it doesn't happen.

Awww, well such is life, right?

However, when I find my expectations of these people have failed me, another person or group of people, remind or show me that all my other expectations mean nothing in the grand scheme of things. They stand up and show me what people are really made of when it matters the most.

Then there are times when I fail myself with expectations of grandeur with things I want to accomplish for the day. As a freelance writer, I often expect larger things of myself than others do.

Some days I meet those expectations I set up for myself. Other days, as I said, I fail. And, boy do I fail miserably.

I find when I set no expectations of people or for myself, I have wonderful days and can accomplish more than when I set myself up for failure.

Sad, but true.

21 comments:

  1. Sometimes that's how it goes. A good honest post.

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  2. I tend to take the safe and mostly never disappointing route and keep my expectations at an extremely reasonable and simple level. It doesn't necessarily mean that I will never achieve anything great, I can find greatness in the smallest of things and if anything bigger happens then all the better. I learned from a very young age after getting my hopes up and being constantly let down, that it is best to take life day by day and focus on doing the best I can here and now.

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  3. Nice blog. I set low expectation from others, just incase! LOL

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  4. I guess I just learn not to expect much from others. I always expect more of myself...

    Great post~ I can definitely relate!

    Jenn

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  5. I guess the fact that one day is good, another bad, one set of people come through, others let you down, goes to prove that there really is balance in all things. Good post :)

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  6. Expectations always lead to disappointment...

    Good blog!

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  7. Right, I try to just live in the moment. Hearts in Fur Coats

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  8. I've been self-employed for pretty much all of my adult life, so like you, I expect a lot of myself. Sometimes I measure up, other times, not so much. When I don't, I try to remind myself that my boss is a bit of a slave-driver. ;O)

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  9. Excellent blog entry re. Expectations. :)

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  10. Great blog and a very realistic view of expectations!

    Kathy
    http://www.thetruckerswife.com/

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  11. I always look for the positive. If I, or someone else falls a little short just measure what has been accomplished. Look for blessings everywhere and you will surely find them. Great write!

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  12. Your second to last sentence struck me. I think you're right. When you expect nothing, you don't get disappointed, but then you also don't feel the exhilaration that comes from meeting or exceeding your expectations. You have given me something to think about, so thank you.

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  13. Yes, when I put too much pressure on myself, it can easily backfire. Every now and then, we need a day to just chill....and let what may come!

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  14. No expectations can result in great days for sure. Maybe because that way you live in the moment?

    Long term though, no expectations would probably lead to little accomplishment. I guess keeping them reasonable is the key?

    Good post about all the nuances of expectation!

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  15. hope you made some $ on this post!! : )

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  16. I think its OK to set expectations and if they get missed consistently, then they need to be readjusted. Also if you don't meet your own expectations, enjoy what you did achieve and learn the lesson as to why you didn't meet your expectation.

    Thanks for a very thought-provoking and well written blog

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  17. Failing to meet an expectation and not learning from it is the true failure in and of it's self.
    When we quit learning from our mistakes, then we might as well crawl in a hole and have someone shovel dirt over us ; )
    Thanks for the great write!

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  18. "I find when I set no expectations of people or for myself, I have wonderful days and can accomplish more than when I set myself up for failure."

    That is what I have found too, Karen.

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  19. Good point-"I find when I set no expectations of people or for myself, I have wonderful days and can accomplish more than when I set myself up for failure."

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  20. You know what? In the end all will be well, sooner or later! Just keep the faith and a smile on your face!

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  21. I think it's good to expect a lot from ourselves or we'd all get lazy.

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